(2019-07-09) Rubin Do You Struggle With Anger I Sure Do The Four Tendencies Framework Helps Explain Why

Gretchen Rubin: Do You Struggle with Anger? I Sure Do. The Four Tendencies Framework Helps Explain Why. In the course of writing Better Than Before, my book about how to make and break habits, I discovered my "Four Tendencies" framework that divides people into four "Tendencies": Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel.

I'm an Upholder

I do think that each Tendency has a particular flavor of a certain kind of recurrent anger

Upholder anger: "Why can't people just get their tasks done?"

Questioner anger: "Why do people just follow along like lemmings, and expect me to do the same for no good reason?"

Obliger anger: "Why am I the only one doing anything around here? Why am I meeting other people's expectations but not meeting my expectations for myself?"

Rebel anger; "Why do people keep telling me what to do?"

Do you struggle with anger? Do you find that your Tendency helps explain some aspects of your anger—and does that knowledge help you?